How to Be More Confident as You Age

As you get older, you’d think you’d get more confident. After all, you’ve done more stuff, experienced your fair share of ups and downs and come to terms with who you are and what you look like. However, for many people, that’s simply not the case.

For a lot of us, getting older makes us more nervous and more self-conscious, at least until we hit our 60s when according to research, things start to change and we get our confidence back.

If you don’t want to wait ‘til you’re in your 60s to be at your most confident, here are a few things you can do right now to gain, instead of lose, confidence as you get older:

List Your Achievements

It might seem a little cheesy, but making a list of your achievements can help you to feel better about yourself.

When you can see for yourself, in black and white, all of the great things you’ve done up until this point, whether that be raising a great family or running a marathon, you won’t fail to feel even a little better about yourself and your achievements.

Dress to Impress

Dressing to impress in this case doesn’t mean dressing to impress others, but dressing to impress yourself.

Dressing in a way that makes you look confident of your appearance can help you fake it ‘til you make it and before you know it you really will feel confident.

Dressing to impress doesn’t just mean dressing immaculately in a power suit though – it could mean wearing nipple covers to disguise gynecomastia, a compression vest to keep your belly in check or a hat to cover your bald patch – it means dressing in any way that will help you feel better about yourself.

Obviously, your ultimate aim is to feel confident wearing whatever you want, but there is something to be said for dressing the part while you’re working on being more confident so why not give it a try?

Look After Yourself 

On a related note, taking the time to really care for your body can be a huge confidence boost.

You don’t have to become a gym fanatic or start training for a marathon, but taking a` little time out to exercise and cook nutritious healthy meals will go a long way to improving your body image and making you feel more confident in yourself.

If you’re short on time, try a HIIT workout a couple of times a week and you’ll be surprised at the results.

Become a Life-Long Learner

You may feel like, now you’re older, your studying days are behind you, but actually, learning new skills is a great way to boost your self-confidence because it gives you goals, achievements and new strings to your bow.

With greater knowledge comes greater power, so enroll on that online class and do something good for yourself today.

Help Someone Else

If you’ve been on this planet for a few decades, there is no way you have not built up a wealth of experience, even if it’s only in one area.

So, why not share that knowledge with other people?

Becoming a mentor, tutor or creating an online video course of your skills is a great way to boost your self-confidence because although you may not value what you know, other people will and that can be very enlightening, showing you that you really do have lots to offer. It’s easy to become complacent about yourself, but when you help others your value really shines through.


Meditation is a fantastic tool, and the best thing about it is that it’s completely free and anyone can give it a go.

As well as being great at eliminating stress and keeping depression in check, meditating regularly can help you quieten your negative self-talk, which can help you to feel more comfortable and more confident in your own skin.

Do Something That Scares You

Making the effort to do something that scares you can boost your confidence greatly, although it may terrify you at first.

Whether you join Toastmasters and start speaking publically, you join an improve class or go to an open mic night, doing at least one thing that scares you every month will be a revelation.

Most of us aren’t born with a high level of confidence, we have to work on it as we grow and age. It doesn’t matter how old you are now, there are lots of things to do to boost your confidence even if you’ve been suffering from low self-esteem for a long time.

Jeff Campbell

Jeff Campbell is a father, martial artist, budget-master, Disney-addict, musician, and recovering foodie having spent over 2 decades as a leader for Whole Foods Market. Click to learn more about me

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