The Importance of Boundary Setting as a Parent


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There’s nothing easy about being a parent, and many find it tough to know how or when to set boundaries for their children. You don’t want to come across too harsh or to risk damaging your relationship with your child, but you also don’t want to cause the problems that come with a lack of boundaries.

Here are some reasons why boundaries really are important for children, so read on to find out more about them.

Help Them Adjust to Life in the Real World

When you’re a parent, it’s your job to help your child get ready for what life will be like for them when they fly the nest and head out there on their own. Setting boundaries is part of that; in life they won’t get everything they want and they’ll need to play by the rules of society.

By setting boundaries for them as a child, you’ll help them to adjust early on to that reality.

Avoid Entitled Behavior

No one wants their child to grow up to be entitled and expecting things to be how they want them to be. Instead, you want your child to be understanding, humble and considerate of the needs of others and how those needs might intersect with their own aims and priorities. Boundary setting will help with each of those things.

Boundaries Help Children Feel Safe and Less Anxious

One thing that’s often overlooked is the way in which boundaries are actually craved by children. They want that structure and some parental authority.

They can feel safer and less anxious when they know those boundaries are in place and when they know what’s expected of them and where the lines in the sand have been drawn.

Bad Behavior Can Escalate Quickly

If you allow bad behavior to go unpunished for too long, you’re going to have problems sooner or later.

Letting your child get away with things might not seem like a big thing to begin with, but those behaviors will escalate quickly if you allow them to. You don’t want to be paying bail bonds and dealing with police as your kid turns into a misbehaving teen.

That’s why you should cut out those behaviors now by setting the right boundaries.

Children Aren’t Fully Developed and Their Independent Decision-Making Often Isn’t Good

One important thing to remember is that children are still developing. Their brains are not developed, and that’s why they need your guidance and boundary setting.

Their decision making is often not good and this can lead to bad choices if the right boundaries are not in place, so don’t let that become a problem for your family.

Being a parent certainly isn’t easy, and knowing when and how to set boundaries for your children is one of the toughest parenting challenges of all.

But it’s definitely worth thinking about this and putting a plan in place for how you’re going to get this right because it’ll pay off for your kids in the end.

Jeff Campbell

Jeff Campbell is a husband, father, martial artist, budget-master, Disney-addict, musician, and recovering foodie having spent over 2 decades as a leader for Whole Foods Market. Click to learn more about me

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