If you’re back in the dating market after a divorce, it can sometimes feel really difficult to find a good man. You may be thinking to yourself: “Where have all the good men gone?”
In reality, there is an abundance of good single men out there, including plenty who would be happy to date a woman with kids. Perhaps you’re just not looking in the right places.
In this guide, we have listed 7 of the most effective places for divorced moms to meet single guys.
#1. Through Friends
It’s a great idea to spend some quality time with your friends after the stressful divorce process. After such an emotional time, it will surely lift your spirits to spend as much time as you can having fun with positive, supportive people in your life.
On top of that, your friends might be able to recommend a great single guy for you to date.
The best thing about dating a friend’s recommendation is that he’s already been vetted by someone you trust. You don’t have to worry about him being a weirdo. In fact, if your friend thinks the two of you will get on well, you probably will! The odds are in your favor, at least.
#2. Online Dating
Perhaps you were married long enough to have completely missed the online-dating boom of the mid-2010s and beyond.
If so, here’s a newsflash for you: everyone’s doing it!
Ok, that’s perhaps an exaggeration but online dating has certainly gone mainstream. It’s not just for nerds and the incredibly lonely anymore. It could be argued that online dating is the best platform for time-pressed single moms to meet new suitors.
Instead of making the effort to find a babysitter, dress up, and mingle with other singletons, you can chat with them from the comfort of your sofa.
There are niche online dating websites for specific tastes.
Some are aimed at those seeking quick and dirty hookups. Others target those looking for true love. There are free cougar dating apps for you to download if you’re seeking a younger boyfriend. Reading reliable reviews of online dating sites will help you pick the right platform for you.
Whether you’re looking to meet younger guys who are going after older women like those here or other single parents a little knowledge goes a long way.
To find the best guys, make an effort to take some great photos of yourself. Happy swiping!
#3. Clubs + Events
Yes, you have children to take care of, but hopefully, you’re still able to devote some time to the hobbies that make you happiest. Perhaps now you’re back in the dating market, you might even choose to join a club or an event to do with this hobby. This way, you’ll be able to meet new friends with like-minded interests and maybe find someone you want to date too.
Mutual interests create a solid foundation for a loving relationship, so it’s well worth being as open and sociable as you can at events like this. So use websites like MeetUp.com or Facebook Events to find events in your local area.
#4. Pubs, bars, and parties
It’s simply not true that guys at bars are only looking for a one-night stand.
If you’re based in North America or Europe at least, the chances are the most single guys in your city enjoy a night out at a bar now and again. That means there are plenty of good guys, as well as the occasional sleazy drunkard.
Again, if you’re able to appear open and sociable (and you avoid the common social blunders), this might give the good guys a bit of that extra courage they need to come and introduce themselves to you.
#5. Parental activities
Watching your delightful daughter’s dance recital? Picking your son up from soccer practice? There’s every chance that the man of your dreams will be here too.
The truth is: there are more single parents than ever before. So, there’s every chance that gorgeous dad also watching the recital is single. Check his hand for a wedding ring and maybe open the conversation with a friendly greeting. Who knows where it might lead?
The great thing about dating a fellow single parent is that he likely understands what it takes to date a mom.
He knows your time is precious. He’s aware how difficult it is to raise a child. He’s made peace with the fact that you’re going to be stressed and moody sometimes. If he’s prepared to date you in spite of this, that’s a great sign for the longevity of your relationship.
#6. Date your male friends
It’s one of life’s most beautiful experiences when a friendship blossoms into a full-blown romance.
Perhaps you have a few male friends who weren’t a good match when you were younger. But now you’re older, perhaps your priorities for what you want in a partner has changed.
Maybe he was secretly hoping that you’d get divorced and give him a chance one day. As unethical as it sounds, this is why a lot of men instigate “friendships” with women who are taken.
Well, now you’re single, you might see your friends in a new light. Could it be that your Prince Charming was waiting under your nose this whole time?
#7. Out and about
Although the number of men willing to strike up a flirty conversation in a cafe or at the supermarket appears to be decreasing, there are still some guys who are brave enough to do it. If you’re open to this, it can create a magical romantic moment.
Maybe it’s even you who is brave enough to strike up the conversation. Love is all around us if we are willing to open our eyes and see it.
The “good men” are everywhere. You just need to put yourself out there and be open to meeting them.