Divorcing: 5 Key Things You Should Know About Divorce

This generation is seeing less divorce than in the past few decades. One of the big reasons for this is that people are being more selective and getting married later.

Divorce still happens, though, and it’s still fairly common. Divorcing someone can be a difficult and painful process, but it’s the best option sometimes.

Regardless of why you’re doing it, divorce is nothing to be taken lightly. It’s always best to do some research and learn a few things about divorce before going through with it.

We’ll talk about a few divorce facts you should know in the paragraphs below.

1. People Don’t Often ‘Win’ Divorce Cases

Divorcing someone, more often than not, involves compromise. There are very few instances where one party will get the kids, car, house, and money. One side, for instance, may take the car and money, while the other gets the house and kids.

It may be hard to tell who owns things in the final tally, which may lead to arguments. You may end up losing things you thought were yours.

Divorce isn’t something anybody wins. It’s a loss of a spouse, along with anything that spouse provided, from money to security, and even simple comfort. At the end of the day, all you get back is the freedom to start over.

The only winners of divorce are those getting out of an abusive relationship. These people get back freedom and security in a way that most divorces don’t offer.

Their life is theirs, and they don’t have to live in fear any longer. In many cases, their children don’t have to either.

2. It Can Be Hard on the Kids

Divorce can be devastating to young children for many reasons. This is the only world they know, and suddenly it’s changing. The people they love the most are saying that they no longer love each other.

The good news is that there are right ways and wrong ways to handle this. Screaming, shouting, and fighting can cause the child to blame themselves, which can, in turn, lead to greater issues.

The best way to handle it is to calmly explain to the children what’s going on. People can fall out of love. It’s sad, but it happens, and it’s not anybody’s fault.

The children need to understand that their parents will always love them, even if they’re no longer together.

3. Court May Not Be a Good Idea

It seems like we constantly see images on TV of a divorcee trying to win everything in court. These same shows don’t mention lawyers’ fees, lost income, or any of the other issues and inconveniences that come with a day in court.

This isn’t to say that you should never get divorced. You may not want to be married anymore, and that’s okay. However, it doesn’t have to go to trial.

Sometimes, if both spouses are willing, arrangements can be made so that everybody can get some of what they want and nobody has to get a lawyer.

In some cases, you don’t have to get divorced. You can have the marriage annulled. One of the most frequently asked questions about divorce is what an annulment is.

Annulments are only made under certain circumstances, such as if one spouse was unable to consent to the marriage, because they were forced, underaged, or unable to understand the marriage contract. It can also be annulled if the couple is related or one of them was already married.

Sometimes, there’s nothing you can do. Some people are uncooperative and have to be taken to court.

4. Honesty

Nobody gets away with cheating at court. You have to disclose all your assets to your attorney and your spouse. Failing to do so is against the law and can cost you dearly.

Some of the things you sought to protect by hiding them may be lost because of your dishonesty.

Honesty with lawyers is also important. Your attorney can’t effectively argue your case if they don’t have the full facts of the case.

Perhaps you were accused of cheating. Whether you did or didn’t won’t matter if you don’t tell the attorney. They won’t have a prepared response when it comes up.

5. Organization

One of the best ways to ensure that you’re being honest and accurate about the circumstances of the divorce is to collect documents from the time of the marriage. This will help the judge determine who is the rightful owner of which assets.

This can help even if you don’t go to court. They can help you figure out the same issues.

A prenuptial agreement can help as well. Having a prenuptial agreement means that certain assets and properties are already decided in case of a divorce.

Many couples avoid getting one because it feels like investing in failure. Plus, when you’re a newlywed, or soon-to-be-married, divorce isn’t something you think will happen to you.

Things You Need to Know Before Divorcing Someone

Many people still believe that divorce is done too lightly these days. That’s not necessarily true, but you should know about the process before divorcing your spouse.

We’ve mentioned only some important things to know in the paragraphs above. There are plenty of others out there. We encourage you to do more research on your own if you’re interested.

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Jeff Campbell

Jeff Campbell is a husband, father, martial artist, budget-master, Disney-addict, musician, and recovering foodie having spent over 2 decades as a leader for Whole Foods Market. Click to learn more about me

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