Every family deserves the opportunity to grow and thrive.
For people that want their families to come together, setting family goals is a great place to start.
Having a set of goals and letting every family member feel like they matter will help your family become much closer as a whole.
If you’d like to learn about setting some goals for your family, keep reading to see what you may be able to start doing today.
What Are Family Goals?
While the goals for your family are different than common life goals, they are still important to build relationships with your spouse or children.
If you have children, you know how important you are to them as a parent. The role of a parent is crucial for general child development, but also parents should be modeling and teaching their kids how to become functioning adults.
Having goals for the family helps you to connect with your family member on a new level. It also gives you more motivation to try and be the best version of yourself.
Sometimes, your life may become so busy that having time to spend with your family may seem impossible. You lose sight of the bigger picture and what you want your life to be about when you don’t have time to stop and really think about it.
Once you add some goals, you will find that you are more motivated to keep going and find new ways to improve your family life. Family goals are important for you as a person, but also for the happiness of and relationships between your family members.
Benefits of Having These Types of Goals
One way to start keeping goals for the family is to first create a list of goals to set for yourself. Once you figure out how it will work for you individually, it is easier to figure out how it works on a bigger family level.
Feeling of Belonging
One benefit of having goals for the family is an increased sense of belonging. From a child’s perspective, feeling like one belongs is extremely important. The ages of 7 to 15 years old are prime years for figuring out how we fit into society and what we want from relationships.
Knowing how to have healthy relationships with our families help us create healthy relationships as adults. Stronger and happier relationships in families is a good thing for everyone.
Happy Thoughts and Memories
Another benefit of family goals is creating memories. Many parents worry that they won’t have enough positive or happy times with their kids to create memories that they will think about forever.
When you have goals in place, you are actively taking part in creating those positive memories that will stick with your children forever.
Some families have strong values that they want their children to learn. Instilling those family values can be difficult if you don’t spend a lot of time together.
In fact, some of the most simple values that many of us take for granted, such as honesty or determination, are the types of things that parents need to be teaching their children.
The school counselor may help with teaching some of these characteristics, but in the end, it really should come down more to parenting style and family values.
Creating family goals helps you spend more time getting to know your children, how your children act, and talking to them about your own feelings or beliefs. This is good for them to get to know you, but it also helps them develop critical thinking skills.
A lot of people find that they will feel less guilty to spend time alone or doing downtime activities when they are actively pursuing goals outside of that time.
The reason for this is that you know you are doing well at home with family or maybe even at work as well, so you feel more deserving of the downtime. When you aren’t doing things with family members, you probably will not feel as confident when you are doing things you enjoy alone.
It is actually healthy to spend some time alone. As long as a balance is in place for all family members, this is another benefit that could come up for your family when you have goals in place.
Examples of Possible Goals for the Family
It’s not a bad idea to come up with some personal goals for 2019 as well to become a better person individually and with your family.
- Eat more healthy foods, like vegetables or fruit
- Save money to go on a road trip
- Spend a night every week doing an activity everyone enjoys
- Start your own family book club
- Do more activities outside as a group
- Take a class with the whole family, like a cooking class
- Designate one day a month to volunteering at a local shelter
These are just some quick ideas that may be something to add to your calendar. If you can come up with your own, that’s even better!
Many of these activities are healthy for each family member as individuals as well. Check out this article by The Avatar Course to see some more ways that these simple types of actions may benefit the soul.
A good way to organize these types of plans is to get a whiteboard that you can use different color markers on for different activities.
That way if your plans change, you can easily change them on the board and everyone can see what is going on every day!
If you’re struggling to come up with goals for children or even your spouse, it may be easiest to just ask them.
Sometimes the answer of a small child may be simple enough that it helps increase their happiness while not being a lot of work for you!
Come Up With Your Own Goals
As you can see, family goals are a great way for families to build each other up and grow as a group at the same time.
Creating goals will be a very positive thing for your family and give you more opportunities for bonding with your spouse or children.
If you’d like to find some other ways to help your family thrive, consider checking out some of our posts about parenting.