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How Appearance Factors in a Relationship

“Looks don’t matter for true relationships.” That’s what people tend to believe a lot. But no matter how hard we emphasize this point, there’s no denying that physical appearance matters too. A study found that men find women with a low waist-hip ratio (WHR)more attractive. While the study is about women, the same is true for men as well.

Even women find men with a good height, muscular body, and abs more attractive. If we talk about case studies and stats, another survey conducted in Singapore in 2019found that39% of people would not date someone who is overweight, and the same is true worldwide.

Do looks matter in a relationship?

Everyone wants to believe that they are not shallow and not select a mate based on the looks. But the harsh reality is that physical appearance drives the initial attraction. Although looks might not be essential when a relationship matures, the truth is that most interest at the beginning of a relationship happens due to physical appearance.

Despite all the plus such as a good sense of humor, kindness, and intelligence, even the minute traits such as being overweight or baldness patterns can impact your relationship. That’s because physical looks are a significant factor contributing to real-life dating decisions. Hence, you should never let go of grooming or taking care of your physique.

Take all the possible measures to enhance your looks. For instance, if you are overweight, go jogging or do some weight lifting to burn those extra carbs. On the other hand, if you want to improve your hair, you can use natural shampoo for dandruff.

Take all the possible steps to take care of your physical appearance. Maintaining your looks will play a vital role in keeping that spark in your relationship alive for many years.

Where else do the looks matter?

Looks are not only essential to be in a healthy relationship, but they are also important in other aspects of your life. Here are some primary elements apart from the relationship where physical appearance matters.


When you feel that you look like the best version of yourself, your self-esteem gets a significant boost. It’s something that comes naturally. When we take care of our body and looks, and it comes out positively, we do stand a little taller in everything. That’s when our real-self comes in front of everyone.

Having a good physical appearance will also help you become successful. Social interactions, as you would know, are a vital factor in determining a person’s success. Your network and how you interact with them to keep your business relationships strong are all a part of becoming successful. With high self-esteem, your social interactions will go to a whole new level, thereby helping you achieve success in your life.


While attraction is one thing, taking care of your body will also help you stay healthy. There’s no denying that exercise is essential for staying healthy. Even 30 minutes of daily exercise can help you stay in shape. The best thing is that there are multiple ways to do exercises.

You don’t necessarily have to lift weights or go to the gym to stay fit. Small initiatives such as brisk walking or climbing the stairs can do the job for you. On top of that, you can also burn fat and stay fit by other means of enjoyment and entertainment. For instance, you can go cycling, swimming, playing sports, or trekking to remain healthy.

While burning those extra fats will help you look slim and carve out the muscles to make you physically attractive, it will also help you prevent numerous cardiac problems. Staying fit will keep multiple health conditions at bay.

Who You Are

“Never judge a book by its cover.” Another saying that we do want to be true. No one likes to be judged based on appearance. But the fact is that your looks do say a lot about you. Grooming, staying fit, and dressing for the occasion do tell how you feel about yourself. It also speaks about how you want to present yourself in front of others.

Suppose you are going for a job interview but dressed casually or like going for a date. Or inversely, what if you are dressed all professionally to go out for a date? What do you think will be the perception of the other person you meet? That’s just a simple example of how looks matter in minute things.

It is great not to give much importance to physical appearance, and that’s how it should be. But the harsh reality is that looks do matter. Be it in your personal or professional life, physical appearance influences the decisions and perception of you in others’ minds.

Jeff Campbell