How to Indulge Yourself Responsibly as a Father

As a new dad, you know you’re going to be a major role model for your child, and those unhealthy habits that you’ve picked up over your life are going to have to be controlled to some extent as you assume the added responsibility of fatherhood. Now, this needn’t mean you live like a monk for the rest of your days, but it does mean you’re going to need to make some changes in order to be a family man. This article is all about those changes, and how you can best adapt to the new demands of being a father.


If you’re someone who’s enjoyed drinking with friends over the course of your youth, you might consider fatherhood something of a clipping of your wings when it comes to beers with the pals, post-work drinks, or the occasional night out to watch your favorite new bands.

Of course, this isn’t entirely the case. You’re still able to take time to spend with friends, but you should ensure that you’re always in agreement with your partner about who gets to have these brief excursions, and how often.


While smoking is becoming less and less common across the developed world, it is still something that you might occasionally indulge in over the course of your life.

If you’re a smoker, having a child is an excellent opportunity to attempt to quit. Smoking around a pregnant other half, or a new child, is a very bad idea.

Alternatively, in order to kick the second-hand smoke, you could look into vaping at to see if you can drop down to control your habit by swapping smell and smoke for vape.

Sports and Hobbies

You shouldn’t have to leave your hobbies behind when you become a father; in fact, they’ll become a precious part of your life that you return to when you need some alone time, or you feel in need of some new energy in your life.

The key consideration here, again, is to talk with your partner about the amount of time you’ll be able to spend doing your own thing while they look after your child or children.

Don’t allow this time to be skewed in your favor, as all you’ll be doing is effectively curtailing the time your partner gets to spend on her life and with her friends.


And, finally, something that we all need on occasion – the slob day.

Whether you choose to do this alone or with your partner, sometimes after all the stress at work and the sleepless nights with newborn children, all you desire is one night off to relax with some poor-quality food, some worse-quality television, and a cozy night in with the one you love.

Get babysitters for these occasions or leave your kids with grandparents – you’ll deserve it after all your hard work.

These tips have been created to help working dads find ways to indulge themselves responsibly when they become a parent.

Jeff Campbell

Jeff Campbell is a husband, father, martial artist, budget-master, Disney-addict, musician, and recovering foodie having spent over 2 decades as a leader for Whole Foods Market. Click to learn more about me

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