Feeling Locked In: Moving You and Your Kids In With Your Parents

Everybody has felt the pinch of recent times. Some people have needed to adapt their lives so much, yet others have found themselves in the worst possible situation, If you are someone who has felt financial pressures, you may have considered moving back in with your parents. But what happens when you have children in tow?

It may very well be a temporary measure, but what are the things you need to think about before you move back in?

Respect Their Space

While it’s the home you grew up, in it’s not your home anymore.

This means that you have got to work with your parents to ensure that they are happy with the situation. As such, it’s not ideal for you to bring all of your worldly possessions with you. Ideally, you should put things into off-site storage and keep possessions to a minimum.

This might mean that your children won’t have all of their toys, but if you can create an area where the children can play and a place that is yours, you may not be able to relax as you did in your own home, but there is still space for you to unwind as best as you can.

When we move back in with our parents we may very well revert back to the child that we were. But this can prove troublesome. The best approach is to remind yourself that you are a guest.

Pick Your Battles

This is especially true when it comes to parenting.

You may not think that being a stern parent yields the right results but if there are things that your parents disagree with in terms of how you raise your child you’ve got to be upfront about the things that you won’t negotiate on.

Your parents may feel that they want to tell you how to raise your child but it is a simple fact that they are your children and you should decide.

Communicate With Everyone

Not just in terms of speaking to your parents, but you also need to make sure that your children are ok as well.

When it comes to the children you need to be very clear about certain rules and expectations and what the consequences of specific behaviors are.

One of the major problems many children have when it comes to hanging around with their grandparents is that the grandparents may have spoiled them before but now this behavior comes back to bite them in the rear. This is why communication is vital, just to make sure that everybody is ok.

And probably the biggest lesson we can all learn in this situation is that we don’t take the grandparents for granted.

Your parents may still work full-time jobs and have stressful days, which means that when they get home they don’t want to deal with the things that are daily occurrences for us, like diapers or tantrums. It is not an easy thing and you may think about how much money you will save but there’s a lot at stake.

Jeff Campbell

Jeff Campbell is a father, martial artist, budget-master, Disney-addict, musician, and recovering foodie having spent over 2 decades as a leader for Whole Foods Market. Click to learn more about me

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