So you’ve been in a committed relationship for a while, people are starting to question both of you on when you’re going to get married but you’re still unsure whether this is the right time to be asking THAT question.
You need to ask yourself if you’re ready to ask them. Are you ready to make that commitment and do you want to spend the rest of your life with them, how they are now, including the good and the bad?
Here are some things that may help you to decide if now is the right time.
You Support Each Other
A relationship works well when you are both supporting each other.
Although having the same goals for life is the ideal it’s perfectly normal and healthy to have individual goals too. So if you’ve found someone who not only supports you as a couple to reach your goals together, includes you in their goals but also supports you with yours then you have found a good life partner.
You want a marriage where you and your life partner work together to get to where you want to be so if this aspect isn’t there then maybe a huge commitment now wouldn’t be the best choice.
You Respect The Their Family
You don’t have to live in your future in-law’s pockets to know that you have respect for them.
One thing to consider when your thinking about popping the question is if it’s going to be important and respectful to speak to their parents, traditionally the father before going down on one knee.
Even if there isn’t a massive relationship between them, your partner may appreciate your thought and attention when it comes to this. That’s not saying that in some circumstances it wouldn’t be an issue if the conversation hadn’t taken place.
Listen To Your Heart
Is there just something that’s telling you that it’s the right time?
It’s quite normal to be concerned or nervous about making a commitment like this but if you’re happy in your relationship and your gut feeling is to just go for it, then maybe it’s time to listen to your heart and start window shopping some petite crescent rings to get you excited and starting the planning.
Sometimes there are just things that you know.
You Don’t Feel Like You’re Missing Out
This something that is common with both sides of the relationship.
It’s the fear of missing out, so your on a date with them or your just having a cozy night in but you find yourself sitting there and wondering what the lads or girls are up to that night instead, scared that your not going to be there to enjoy the inside jokes or reminisce on the next night out.
If you or your partner ever feel like this then it may be time to question if this is the right time to make a life long commitment to each other. If you don’t enjoy spending your time with them, what’s going to change if you are to get married?
On the other hand, if this fear isn’t there then this could be what you’re ready for.
Your Lives Are In Order
You don’t have to be rolling in money but it is important to have the financial discussion before getting married.
Financial problems are one of the biggest causes of divorce so having a plan in place will help to minimize this. Nobody wants to be surprised about the amount of debt they now have to share the commitment for now that they are married.
It may be that you are already sharing financial responsibilities as it is more and more common for people to cohabit and live as a married couple for a while before actually getting married.
In this case, the financial commitment that comes with marriage won’t be a surprise. Keeping an eye on your credit report would be useful when talking to each other about this topic.
You Know What The Answer Is Going To Be
Maybe you’ve already had discussions about it.
They could have hinted a thousand times (If we get married it’d be somewhere like that). You could have even spoken about what type of ring she wants or if you would get married abroad.
If this is the case, chances are you already know that the answer will be ‘yes’.
Nevertheless, it still needs to feel right with you. It should really feel as though you are confirming what you already know about the relationship and that’s what you want to make a life committing to that person.
Do you have any advice on if now is the right time to propose? If so please share them in the comments section below.