The Pros and Cons of Watching Porn With Your Partner


It doesn’t matter whether you love porn or hate it from the bottom of your heart. It’s there, has always been there, and it’s now becoming even more advanced. At one point all we had were pictures, but now we have videos, virtual reality porn and even live sex shows available online.

However, there is no denying that some people like it, and others not so much. And when you have two people with different opinions about porn, in a relationship, things could get interesting. So, without caring about whether you brought it up, or your partner did, should you watch porn with them? Let’s discuss the pros and cons of doing that, so you can draw a conclusion on your own.

You’ll Be Sharing an Experience and Learning …

Just like having a hobby that you both enjoy, or a sexual experience you’re both having fun with, watching porn with your partner is sharing an experience. If you find yourself watching porn on your own and enjoying it quite a bit, why not bring your partner in on the fun?

By doing this, you also get an opportunity you won’t find elsewhere – you get to learn about your partner’s fantasies.

A lot of people aren’t that open when it comes to sharing their sexual fantasies, even with their partners. To add to this, there are also people who don’t really know what is it that turns them on, and chances are they don’t know what turns on their partner.

Thanks to the quite extensive adult entertainment industry, we now have a vast variety of porn clips where both professionals and amateurs are playing out pretty much every sexual act you can imagine. A quick search and a few button presses, and you might find yourself enjoying your deepest sexual desires being acted out on the screen in front of you.

And if you want to learn how to please your partner, or you want to show your partner how they can please you, that’s precious information.

… But It Might Set Unreasonable Expectations

Continuing with the fact that the adult industry has covered, rather extensively, pretty much anyone’s sexual imagination, there is no denying that in some ways, that same industry might be setting expectations that are unreasonable.

But out of all the things that could be unreasonable, the one that will probably impact you and your partner the most is the fact that porn may make you less satisfied with your partner’s physical appearance or sexual performance.

It is for this reason that we have the phrase “Porn Kills Love”, a phrase that’s being used worldwide as part of anti-porn movements. It stems from the fact that porn could potentially make you unsatisfied with your relationship, even if it was seemingly perfect before that.

It Will Improve Communication …

With porn, you’re pretty much forced to communicate effectively.

This is always positive when you’re in a committed relationship, and you should strive to achieve it. When you want to introduce porn, you should be thoughtful and effective as to why you want to watch porn with your partner, what you want to watch, and when.

If you want to do this in a way that improves communication, you should first acknowledge that watching porn together is not something you’ve done before.

Then, you should discuss with your partner what the potential benefits of doing it might be, and only then can you ask, or offer to actually do it. One thing to keep in mind that you’re asking a question, or making an offer – and that’s something your partner might say no to. If they’re hesitating, you shouldn’t pressure them into it.

… But Your Partner Might See It As Cheating

You might think this only applies if you’re watching porn without your partner, but it actually depends on what their views are on porn – and many people consider porn to be cheating.

They might take you asking them to watch porn as a sign that you’re fantasizing about having sex with people who aren’t them, and chances are they won’t be too happy about that.

Of course, this is something that can be discussed and solved if you’ve got the communication part taken care of.

Should You Do It?

At the end of the day, while people’s opinions on watching porn with your partner are divided, it’s actually something that’s between you and your partner.

While it’s true that it will bring you closer, allow you to communicate more effectively, and ultimately may show you what your partner’s deepest sexual desires are, it might also cause permanent damage to your relationship.

All of this depends on how you, and your partner, look at porn. But if you’re open-minded individuals who see porn for what it is – adult entertainment, you probably have nothing to worry about.  

Jeff Campbell

Jeff Campbell is a husband, father, martial artist, budget-master, Disney-addict, musician, and recovering foodie having spent over 2 decades as a leader for Whole Foods Market. Click to learn more about me

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