My wife and I have a great marriage now, but there was a time when she told me that she wasn’t IN love with me anymore. So I began to research how to rekindle your marriage.
Here’s what we learned:
You CAN rekindle your marriage by spending quality time together (put the kids to bed & put phones down), increasing touch without expectation of sex, but also making sex a priority too, being accountable for your actions, appreciating your spouse without expectation & not looking to your spouse to make you happy.
But there’s a lot more to rebuilding trust in a damaged relationship and rekindling the lost passion in a marriage.
So in this post, we’re diving deep into the world of stale, boring, and even broken marriages.
We’re answering all the top questions, reviewing advice from some top experts, and walking you through all the best steps to rekindle your marriage when the love has faded.
You CAN save your marriage — even when the love has faded.
You CAN grow that spark and get back to how your relationship felt when it was brand new.
And you can bring back that electricity you felt for each other when both of you said, “I love you” for the first time. Isn’t the chance to save your marriage and avoid all the heartache and money worth just a few moments of your time?
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How can I revive my marriage?
If you’re like most people in a long-term committed relationship, your marriage or relationship will ebb and flow.
It’s totally natural for it to NOT feel like it did while you were dating.
That is even truer if you now have kids and have settled into life, careers, family and building a life together.
Everything about your life is different now, so it makes sense that your relationship would feel different too. The good news is you can commit to rekindling your marriage at any time!
We don’t have to settle.
We don’t have to accept that passion is gone never to return. You CAN rekindle your marriage and rekindle love! You simply need to re-prioritize what’s important.
To restore love, we simply have to put aside expectations of our spouse, judgments, and criticisms.
It’s totally ok to ask for what you need and express how it makes you feel if they let you down, but just having a long list of what you expect from your spouse is likely to frustrate you and them and ensure they don’t measure up.
- Take some time each week to do something similar to what you did when dating (music, restaurants, hangouts, games, etc)
- Each day, think of one thing you appreciate about your spouse and write it down
- Do something small for your spouse each day that lets them know you are thinking about them (without the expectation of getting anything in return)
- Hug, connect and say I love you every day (multiple times a day)
As kids, careers, new houses, cars, material things, and life came along, your relationship got prioritized down on the to-do list. But none of those things mean much without someone to share it with.
Thus learning how to rekindle a marriage is crucial!
How do you rekindle love in a marriage?
Relationships break for all kinds of reasons.
If you go into a relationship expecting to never hit a speedbump you’re probably in for a rude awakening.
In my house, we have a fireplace. It’s great when it’s cold outside.
But the fire wasn’t going when we bought the house and it’s not going 24/7. Thus when we want the fire to come back after it’s gone out there are steps we have to take.
We start small with twigs and branches to get that first spark going. Then we gradually throw on bigger pieces, carefully stoking the flames and making sure to not overload it too quickly.
That causes the flames to get snuffed out.
Obviously, I’m talking about fire here, but it also perfectly describes how to rekindle a broken relationship.
To learn how to rekindle a broken relationship you have to:
- Acknowledge the need with your spouse (it’s not like they don’t know it too)
- Take a series of steps to rebuild that passion (not too slow or it will die, but not too quick or you’ll smother it)
- Know that it will take time (it’s not a quick fix; it either took time to diminish the relationship or a serious breach of trust)
- Be willing to both talk (without criticism) and be willing to listen (without defensiveness)
- Revisit the places and activities that helped foster the original passion in your relationship
Is a comfortable relationship in trouble?
There is definitely a difference between 2 people co-existing in a comfortable rhythm and 2 people headed for divorce.
But it’s totally natural 10+ years into a marriage or relationship for 2 people to get comfortable.
A “comfortable” relationship simply means:
- You’re in sync with each other and drama and fights are few
- You both enjoy the life you have built
- You’re just cruising along loving the journey
People in this boat aren’t unhappy.
True they may not quite have the agonizing passion they felt when they first met. But their love hasn’t faded and they aren’t desperately looking for ways to revive their marriage.
But the need to rekindle your marriage isn’t always as obvious as one might think.
That’s especially true if we are focused on a career. We work long hours, maybe travel some, come home, grab a cocktail and veg out on the couch with the family watching TV until it’s time for bed.
There’s nothing wrong with the above scenario, per se, but nothing about that is nurturing your marriage. You aren’t focusing on your spouse.
Practicing Empathetic Listening Skills (click to read my article) is also a great way to improve the connection with your spouse, so if you or your partner often don’t feel heard by the other, take a minute and check out my post on that.
Reasons you may need to rekindle your marriage:
- You are considering a divorce
- Either you or your spouse has had an affair
- You’re bored with your spouse
- You make excuses or find reasons to not come home
If you find yourself in this boat you need to rekindle love before it’s too late.
It’s not too late even if you have talked about divorce. I’ve posted previously about the Top 3 Reasons for Divorce (click to read my surprising article). So if you are moving in that direction, I highly recommend you read that post!
In that post, I walk you through each of those top 3 reasons and what you can do to come back from them if you find them at work in your marriage.
You CAN rekindle your marriage — even if your spouse says that they want a divorce. You CAN rebuild that passion you felt for one another when you first kissed.
And you can bring back that love and devotion you felt for one another when both of you said, “I love you” for the first time.
Do couples reconcile after separation?
When you’ve separated and one person has physically moved out, it can be much harder to reconcile.
The good news is that it sends a clear message to the other spouse that this is serious and something needs to change if the marriage is going to survive.
The bad news is that when you lead largely separate lives, it takes more work, time, and energy to start the reconciliation process and keep it going.
It also costs a lot more financially and if you have kids it puts an incredible strain on them (as well as both of you).
Unfortunately, the statistics don’t support separation as part of the process of trying to rekindle a broken marriage.
According to DivorceStatistics, a whopping 87% of couples who separate end up getting divorced.
Thus, if you or your spouse do separate with hopes of fixing things, you only have about a 13% chance of success.
Obviously, if you are in a situation where your spouse is physically abusive or cruel, for your own safety you should move out ASAP (and the marriage probably can’t be saved anyway).
But for most of us who want to save and rekindle our marriage, moving out is a BAD idea.
How do you rekindle a marriage during separation?
Don’t just ignore one another and hope that the space and time apart will magically “fix” everything. Instead, take the following steps:
- Take things slowly, but not vague or undefined (it’s not fair to keep your spouse in limbo indefinitely)
- Set regular weekly times to meet and talk
- Have clear boundaries (no alcohol consumption when meeting, no unscheduled drop-ins, no intimacy at first)
- Avoid being intimate at the start (it sends a very confusing message)
- Do express how you feel (but avoid yelling, name-calling, or blame)
- Consider seeing a marriage counselor (if you aren’t already)
- Try to understand your role in the problem (and any underlying root issues that fueled it)
- As things progress, begin to date your spouse (still taking things slowly)
- Don’t rush to reconcile (the tendency will be for both of you to return to your old patterns if you don’t really take time to examine the real issues and take steps to change them.
- It’s OK if you aren’t sure if you are still in love (but know that you CAN fall back in love as things progress)
- Make saving your marriage the top priority (friends, nights out, family, and even your kids all need to take a backseat to get your marriage back on track. After all, if you end up divorcing, none of it will matter anyway).
- Put ego and pride aside (many a marriage has ended in divorce because one spouse was too proud to apologize or take real ownership of the damage they did)
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What is a loveless marriage?
A loveless marriage is one where, over time, the love in the marriage has just naturally faded away. It could be due to an affair, but often it’s just from a lack of paying attention.
Lots of things can cause love to diminish.
My own marriage has definitely seen its share of challenges. There was a time when my wife said to me “I love you but I’m not sure I’m still in love with you”.
Luckily that was not recently.
Believe me, that hurt. It was a wake-up call for sure.
I could have been angry. Or said hurtful things back. But she was just being honest. She wasn’t trying to hurt me.
Learning to be honest with your spouse and to receive honest, heartfelt feedback graciously are excellent traits to have or hone.
In my case, I was working a ton. I was also going out after work with friends for drinks. My wife was home alone with our girls.
We’d also moved states for my work 3 times in the prior 15 months so my wife also probably felt somewhat alone and isolated.
She had quit drinking alcohol a few months earlier while I hadn’t (yet).
Thus all of that set the table for widening the rift between us. I thought working hard to provide financially and otherwise was enough.
It wasn’t. I needed to rekindle love in my marriage, but at the time I was too oblivious to see it.
How to rekindle a marriage after infidelity
I’m in a unique position to speak here as I cheated on my wife in 2013.
As I alluded to in the above passage, our marriage wasn’t great at the time. Our communication had deteriorated and my wife had recently quit drinking (but I had not).
It was the lowest point in my life and certainly for our marriage.
We could have broken up and separated our family. But instead (luckily) my wife and I decided to rebuild our marriage.
The good news is we went through the turmoil and came out significantly stronger than we ever were before.
The main steps we took in that process that really rekindled our marriage in the aftermath of my affair included:
- I was 100% accountable for my actions – No excuses, no shifting blame
- Then I quit my job (where the affair had happened)
- I ended all contact with the other woman (changing phone numbers and my email address, blocking her on social media)
- More importantly, I allowed my wife to go through the grieving stages (at her pace with no pressure from me to move past it)
- I focused on changing myself (to show her through my actions that I could be the man she fell in love with)
If you want to see all the crucial steps we took, check out my most shared post on Pinterest about How to Save a Marriage After Infidelity (click to read my article).
Does sexless marriage lead to divorce?
Intimacy, both physical and emotional is CRUCIAL for a successful long-term marriage.
While I’m not talking specifically about sex, I also don’t want to diminish the role of sex in a healthy marriage either. It’s vitally important that spouses are having sex at least once a week.
But having said that, it’s also crucial that both spouses are having their emotional needs met too and finding ways to connect that don’t have the expectation of sex.
So if your marriage is lacking intimacy and you’ve wondered “Can a Marriage Last Without Intimacy (click to read my article)?”, I urge you to explore one of my newer posts that answers that very question.
You CAN save your marriage — even when the love has faded
I feel your pain and I know exactly what it’s like being in a marriage that has faded or is falling apart.
A troubled marriage can lead right to divorce. If you have kids, that can have a terrible effect on them. But it has a devastating to both of you also. And that’s on top of the financial strain, the embarrassment, the emotional drain, and all those wasted years.
I still remember when my wife told me in 2013 that while she still loved me, she wasn’t sure she was still IN love with me. I felt destroyed. We were actively talking about divorce.
But yet, here we are, years later, with a 3rd child born in 2017; our marriage better than ever.
How did that happen?
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How do I get the flame back in my marriage?
Marriage is hard work (click to read my article). In that linked article, I talk about exactly why marriage shouldn’t be easy, but how to make the work you put into it truly effective and not be grueling.
But anything worth doing takes energy, focus and time.
In a marriage, generally speaking, damage or neglect robs us of our feelings of love. What damages us?
According to renown marriage expert Dr. John Gottman, there are 4 pillars that destroy a marriage or relationship.
He calls them the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse (click to read my article which details the 4). I have a previous post on this as well that is well worth diving into to learn more.
Those 4 things are:
Each of these areas is ways of behaving or interacting with each other that destroys the relationship over time.
Thus when you want to learn how to rekindle a broken marriage, eliminating those 4 destructive behaviors is essential.
Your marriage might be able to survive just one of these, but often they go hand in hand.
Criticism & Contempt
When you and your spouse have an argument do you name call, drop profanity or hurl insults? Instead of sticking to the topic you’re arguing over do you take jabs at the other’s personality or appearance?
If they accuse you of something do you redirect it elsewhere or make accusations back instead of just owning your mistake?
The most common form of this is to apologize for a wrong but to backhand it by adding “but” at the end of it.
“I’m sorry I did that, but it wouldn’t have happened in the first place if you hadn’t . . . .”
I’m sure that will sound familiar to some.
Lastly, we have stonewalling, which is essentially avoiding your spouse or the argument. The classic Silent Treatment (click to read my detailed article).
I’ve covered this deceptively deadly relationship killer before as well. If you or your spouse have issues with avoidance, you must check out that post and put an end to this before it’s too late!
How can I fight my marriage alone?
Sometimes we find ourselves feeling like we’re the only one who recognizes a need to fix our marriage.
Maybe our spouse is oblivious or maybe they’ve grown apathetic and just aren’t willing to fight to save your marriage.
That’s a rough spot to be in; isolating, frustrating, and lonely.
Start by telling them how you feel. Rather than placing expectations on them or getting angry, just start by talking about your feelings.
It’s OK to describe how your spouse’s actions (or inactions) make you feel but bring it back to how it makes you feel. That’s key to them not feeling attacked and getting defensive.
If they are oblivious you have to paint a picture of what’s going wrong in the marriage so they can see it.
Even if their perception is totally different (which is OK as they are entitled to their opinion), they should be crystal clear on how you feel about it.
If they are apathetic, then you need to give them a glimmer of hope of what your marriage could be like if you could regain what you’ve lost. The best way to do that is:
- Start going through the motions – go places you went early in the marriage, go on dates, put the phones down and make time for each other
- Wipe the slate clean – Cast aside judgments, blame, and other things you may be feeling towards them
- Focus on being the best version of yourself – You can’t change anyone; you can only change yourself. So don’t worry about what you can’t change. Just be you at your best.
How do I bring back the romance in my marriage?
Sitting and sleeping in close proximity is not connecting.
Often in families, one person is more the breadwinner while the other holds down the family and household.
Genders and stereotypes have changed a lot over the decades, so I’m not going to make any assumptions. But chances are one of you in your relationship leans one way or the other. And vice versa.
In that scenario, it’s quite common for one spouse to see the obvious while the other remains oblivious. With my own marriage there have been times when I saw the need (to rekindle love) and my wife didn’t, and vice versa.
Change Yourself to Rekindle Marriage
At the end of the day though, while we might be desperate to learn how to rekindle a broken marriage, all we can really change is ourselves:
- How we act
- The words we choose to communicate with
- The way we respond or react to what’s happening around us
So if you know you need to rekindle your marriage and your spouse is oblivious, just focus on yourself and your own actions.
Ask for what you want. Be clear but be kind.
While it’s great to go to couples counseling together, seeing a therapist on your own has great benefits too.
So if your spouse won’t go to therapy together, don’t just throw in the towel; seek therapy on your own.
At the very least you’ll feel better and you may gain clarity about your role in the marriage going stale.
Make no mistake; it takes 2 to make a marriage and it takes 2 to run it into the ground.
If your marriage is struggling, then check out this quick video on how to Mend Your Marriage that will help get yours back on track.
How do I reconnect with my husband after having a baby?
I have 3 kids, so I’m a great position to know exactly how this feels.
As guys, we sometimes are clueless about what a woman is going through after giving birth to a child. We see the child, but we don’t always understand the changes your body is going through both physically and hormonally.
So it’s crucial that you talk to us; let us in.
That’s not the same as sex, but it is an intimate connection that is better than none. Talk to us about what you’re feeling and going through. If your sex drive has changed, talk about it.
If you gained weight and feel unattractive, talk to us about it!
Guys are naturally fixers, so at the start of the conversation, make it clear you just want us to listen and not solve the issues. But keeping it bottled up will only make both of you miserable.
Then, maybe 6-8 weeks following the birth of the baby, do try and recommit to regular sex, as it’s an important part of a healthy marriage.
If you aren’t quite feeling it emotionally, it’s still OK to engage in it as it will help to reengage your sex drive and it will help to reconnect you to your husband too.
What keeps your marriage alive?
For my wife and I, our marriage thrives on a few things, such as:
- Regular sex (only weekly these days, but it’s pretty regular)
- Having a little time apart (couples who do everything together, often end up feeling smothered)
- Connecting regularly throughout the week (phones down, TV off, maybe sitting on the patio with a glass of wine just talking)
- Doing fun things outside the house regularly – This can be with the kids, but it’s great to do something fun with our spouse that isn’t tied to the operation of the family
- Apologize – It’s CRUCIAL to take ownership if you blow up after a hard day, do or say things you don’t mean, etc. Don’t just blow those moments over and don’t try and justify the wrong. Take ownership, apologize fully and move on
Being married takes time, effort, focus, and attention. A great marriage doesn’t just “happen”. If yours isn’t what it was or could be, commit to rekindling your marriage today!
How can I fall in love again with my husband?
Love does ebb and flow throughout a marriage.
Sometimes in the course of it, especially after damaging behavior like an affair, the love goes away. Think of your heart as a finite space where love exists.
As damaging things happen, slowly the love pours out and gets replaced by apathy, anger, or even hate.
But with time, energy, and focus, you CAN fall back in love.
The key is to fake it ’till you make it. I know that phrase sometimes gets a bad rap, but hear me out. When you go through the motions, you are programming your mind and building a pattern into your thoughts and brain.
It WILL feel unnatural at first. It may not be enjoyable.
But when you first learned to do ANYTHING, it felt uncomfortable at first too. Whether that was driving, playing tennis, or learning how to play a musical instrument, it didn’t feel comfortable at first.
Why should love be any different?
So what are my . . .
15 Proven Steps to Rekindle Your Marriage When the Love Has Faded?
1. SET TIME TO SPEND TOGETHER JUST THE TWO OF YOU
Kids, bills, dinner, yard-work, business dinners, that new episode of whatever.
The world seemingly conspires against you and your spouse just getting to hang out. Thus you have to consciously make it happen.
Use an app if you must or a calendar, but have regular date nights!
2. GET TOGETHER AND JUST TALK AND CONNECT
After work when the kids are in bed don’t just turn on the TV, pour a glass of wine and sit next to your spouse in a vegetative state.
That’s OK some nights, but it shouldn’t be every night.
Get together sometimes and just talk. Connect. Over coffee or after dinner. Meet up for lunch occasionally.
Make an effort to connect with each other’s lives, thoughts, goals, and fears. This person is (hopefully) the biggest part of your life, so why should we expend the least amount of effort on them?
3. STOP HAVING EXPECTATIONS OF YOUR SPOUSE
Tony Robbins has a saying I love: “Trade your expectations for appreciation and your whole world changes in an instant”. Essentially he means don’t focus on what you think your spouse should be doing.
Just be appreciative for who they are and what they are doing and what they bring to the table. It’s essentially a glass half full or empty proposition.
When all you focus on is what they aren’t doing, you’ll never feel satisfied. If you see your spouse as a constant disappointment, that’s a recipe for divorce!
4. TAKE REAL OWNERSHIP IF YOU HAVE DAMAGED THE RELATIONSHIP
We all do things to damage our relationships.
Maybe one of you had a problem with drugs or alcohol. Or had an affair. Perhaps you were overly critical and always on edge.
It could also be more benign habits. But over a period of years, even the smallest issue can become draining to our spouse. It can take it’s toll on love and being in love.
So if you know you’ve contributed to the decline in the marriage it’s not enough just to stop the behavior.
Acknowledge it! Own it. Accept it. Apologize for it (multiple times if necessary).
You don’t need to dwell on the past, but you do need to take responsibility for it so your partner can heal.
That, in turn, will often cause them to let their guard down and own their behavior too. Then and only then can you truly begin to move forward in forging the best chapter yet in your relationship.
There’s no shame in making mistakes. The shame comes in repeating them and/or not taking responsibility for them. Learning how to rekindle a marriage must include accountability.
5. MAKE SEX A PRIORITY
As with #1, the world again conspires to push sex by the wayside. Men and women also have different sexual needs. And needs change differently as we age.
That being said, sex is an important part of ANY relationship and it can be very hard to have a rewarding and lasting relationship without it.
Make sex a priority. Keep it interesting. Change it up, and don’t cast it aside.
If you’re too tired at night after the kids go to bed, make it part of the morning ritual. Schedule it if you must like Adam & Kristina Braverman on Parenthood.
But make it a regular part of your routine and you will rekindle your marriage.
6. TOUCH AND CONNECT WITHOUT SEXUAL EXPECTATIONS
Aside from making sure sex is a priority, it’s also important to touch your partner without the expectation that it’s leading to sex.
Emotional intimacy is fostered by touch. A sense of security and connection with our partner is created by physical connections.
Hold hands, snuggle, kiss. If it leads to sex; great! But don’t initiate it for that reason.
7. FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
I know that phrase is a bit controversial but I like it.
Anything we do, when we are first learning it (or trying to rekindle it) will feel awkward. It feels foreign and unfamiliar; a bit unnatural.
Learning how to rekindle a broken marriage is no different!
But you didn’t stop riding your bike as a kid just because it felt awkward at first. You kept doing it until it felt natural; until you fell into a groove and it became part of who you are.
Thus any task, habit or direction you want to take in life can be seen in the same way.
If you and your spouse have had love diminish, go through the motions. Follow the steps above. It will feel a little awkward at first, but eventually, it will feel totally natural; you will fall back in love again!
8. DON’T DEPEND ON THE OTHER TO MAKE YOU HAPPY
Only you can make yourself happy.
It’s true that others can do things to anger or sadden us, but our own inner happiness is ours to own and nurture.
If you expect your spouse to provide your happiness you’re in for a disappointment. They can bring joy, love, and support, but don’t lose sight of looking inward.
9. HAVE ACTIVITIES APART
We don’t need to do EVERYTHING together.
An ex once told me “wouldn’t it be great if we could spend every minute together with no one else ever around?”
At the time I thought it was sweet. Now older and wise I realize how truly co-dependent and potentially smothering that really was.
Have hobbies and activities away from each other. Not all the time, and not even the majority of the time.
But have interests and friends outside of your marriage or relationship.
Then when you do come together you’re excited to see one another and you have interesting things to talk about.
10. BUILD INTIMACY
Intimacy means closeness and familiarity.
Our spouse is often the person with whom we let our guard down the most. As damage in the relationship happens, the guard comes up.
Thus when learning how to rekindle a marriage, it’s essential that we work on rebuilding intimacy. Be less defensive, say things that don’t make your spouse feel defensive.
As the guard comes down and intimacy and emotional connection improve, so will the marriage.
There are MANY ways to help build intimacy, so I urge you to check out all 31 incredible ways you can Restore Intimacy in Marriage (click to read my article) in one of my newer posts.
11. CHANGE YOUR SEX PATTERNS
After a couple has been together some time, it’s easy to fall into routine patterns.
When we’re talking about sex, the routine can sometimes become boring. Now don’t get me wrong, most of us would rather have routine sex than none at all.
But change it up once in a while! If your spouse is usually the one who initiates it, you initiate it every once in a while.
Change positions or even location. Spice things up a little!
12. Make a list of your favorite memories
All long-term couples will have a few standout moments of the relationship; places, events, concerts, or simpler moments where they really enjoyed a standout moment with their spouse.
Write those moments down. If you want to take it a step farther, print out pictures from them and create a photo album of them or a montage of photos in a frame on the wall.
As you recall those moments, the feelings you had for your spouse at that time will return.
13. Alter your routine
Married couples, especially with kids in the mix, tend to fall into a routine each week.
Getting kids ready for school. grocery shopping, cleaning the house, etc. We fall into a rhythm and find ourselves doing the same things each week and most days of the week.
Thus, it can get a little boring.
So change it up! Do something together you used to do separately. Change the days you do some tasks. Allow some lesser important things to get moved to the backburner.
As life gets more interesting and less routine, your marriage will follow suit!
14. Understand each other’s love language
When my wife asks me to tell her in-depth, exactly why I love her, I fumble at my words.
But if she asks me to build her something, fix something, or schedule something, I am ALL about it. I show love through my actions and less so through my words.
When you put aside expectations and just appreciate your spouse AND the ways that THEY choose to show love you WILL be happier.
Each person shows and expresses love differently and it’s not fair to expect one spouse to show you love how you think it should be shown. If they aren’t showing it at all, that’s a different problem.
But do take time to understand and appreciate their (and your) love language.
15. Examine your friends’ list
Are most of your friends single or divorced? Are they are the bar or club every weekend drinking heavily and hooking up with strangers?
When you (and they) are in your early 20s and single that’s OK.
But as we get older, get further down the career path, get married, and especially when we have kids, behaviors like that don’t have a place in our lives anymore.
But if you still hang out with friends like that, however great a person they might be, it affects how we think (negatively).
I’m not saying to ditch all your single friends, but I am saying that, according to the noted speaker and author Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
So begin to cultivate friendships with people that you’d like to be more like and slowly begin to spend less time with people whose lives you would not want for yourself.
Did I cover everything you wanted to know about how to rekindle your marriage and rekindle love?
In this post, we examined exactly how to how to rekindle a broken marriage.
We identified some of the most common things that derail marriages. That includes things that cause damage and also can cause partners to drift apart.
But we also looked at the crucial steps you can take to rekindle the marriage. It’s totally natural for relationships to settle into a routine. But you don’t have to accept a boring or passionless marriage.
Like anything worth doing you have to put forth the effort. It’s never too late to save your marriage or relationship; you just have to try.
If your marriage is struggling to rekindle the passion, then check out this quick video on how to Mend Your Marriage that will help get yours back on track.
What has been your biggest marriage challenge?
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