As I head into my early 50’s, my wife is still approaching 40. So I’ve wondered how often do couples in their 40’s make love? On average, couples in their 40’s have sex 1.33 times per week. That’s 20% less than couples in their 30s, but still over the once-a-week mark recommended by many experts … Read more
My wife and I have a great relationship now, but I still remember when it wasn’t like that. I used to wonder is it normal for a married couple to fight every day? It is completely normal and healthy for couples to have small fights every day in a relationship. It’s not the frequency of … Read more
I cheated on my ex-wife back in 2013, destroying her trust in me. The #1 question she had back then was “can I trust my husband after he cheated on me?” To trust your husband again after he cheated will take time, likely 1 year for each month the affair lasted. But it will also … Read more
For my first marriage, I got married just before I turned 21. I know, in retrospect, that was way too young, so I began to wonder what is the best age to get married? While the current average ages to get married are 29.8 for men and 27.8 for women, the best age to get … Read more
I admit it. In 2013, I cheated on my wife. For any of you who have cheated, here’s what I learned about how to prove you will not cheat again: After an affair, it’s crucial for the cheater to be 100% honest, transparent, and open. Put aside excuses, ego, or defensiveness. Give your spouse complete … Read more
My marriage almost fell apart in 2013 after I cheated on my wife. So I wanted to share all the steps to save a marriage after infidelity that worked for my wife and me. To save a marriage after infidelity, there has to be complete honesty from the cheater as rebuilding trust is the #1 … Read more
My (now ex) wife and I often struggled in our marriage due to her inability to connect with me emotionally. So learned to spot some of the emotionally distant wife signs. Some of the signs of an emotionally distant wife include being on the phone constantly, deflecting blame onto others, shutting down during arguments, using … Read more
All couples have disagreements. But while I’ve been married for well over a decade I still wonder about how to avoid the different types of marital conflict. The types of marital conflicts include inappropriate use of technology, jealousy and being controlling, the silent treatment, sexually destructive behavior, using kids as a weapon, money fights, criticism … Read more
There was a time when my ex-wife and I would be arguing and she would just suddenly stop and walk away, and I’ve done it too. I know that’s not good, but I wondered exactly how the silent treatment hurts us and is the silent treatment a form of emotional abuse? The silent treatment is … Read more
Being in a relationship that is smothering and clingy, we feel like our spouse is watching our every move. To avoid that, I decided to look into how to be less clingy in a relationship. Here’s what I learned: A clingy spouse is an insecure spouse. Often those insecurities are rooted in childhood issues and … Read more
My wife and I used to name call, yell, use profanity, and constantly criticize one another. Dr. John Gottman, the world’s leading marriage expert, calls refers to that behavior as Gottman’s Four Horsemen. Dr. John Gottman’s Four Horsemen refer to the 4 worst things couples can do to one another which can lead to divorce. … Read more
We’ve all heard of marriage counseling, but we aren’t sure it will work. Back when my marriage was struggling, I wondered can marriage counseling help? Marriage counseling can help if both spouses are willing to go. Both spouses also need to be 100% honest in therapy, being willing to take ownership of their part in … Read more
My wife and I were on the brink of divorce in 2013. Luckily our marriage made it, but I decided to compile what I learned about the top reasons for divorce so you can avoid them. The top reasons for divorce include basic incompatibility, infidelity, and money problems. Many couples struggle with 1 or more … Read more